Author: Michael Sharron
Ah,
custodial
mothers,
undoubtedly
a
topic
of
much
angst
with
many
readers
of
A
Voice
For
Men.
However,
I
do
not
intend
to
turn
this
article
into
a
diatribe
against
the
world’s
mothers
as
some
may
suspect.
Actually,
I
do
not
think
any
negative
or
visceral
writing
I
could
pen
here
today
could
come
as
close
to
making
a
point
about
custodial
mothers
than
where
I
intend
to
go
with
this
article.
I
would
also
like
to
extend
a
nod
to
the
many
custodial
mothers
who
are
a
part
of
the
Men’s
Human
Rights
Movement,
those
mothers
who
made
the
conscious
decision
to
either
turn
their
back
on
feminist
ideology
and
made
sure
that
the
father
of
their
children
were
equally
included
in
their
kids’
lives,
or
those
mothers
here
supporting
us
today
that
have
male
children
who
most
likely
are
experiencing
hell
in
the
family
courts
(or
soon
will
be).
My
story
starts
twelve
years
ago
when
my
first
daughter
was
born
and
I
found
myself
in
a
precarious
position
in
her
life
as
a
putative
father
(father
not
married
to
the
mother)
and
instantly
found
myself
excessively
denigrated
by
a
family
court
system
that
has
a
long
history
of
hurting
legal
fathers,
but
does
so
with
great
furor
to
fathers
who
are
not
married
to
the
mother.
Needless
to
say,
I
was
turned
into
an
obligatory
non-custodial
father
in
the
blink
of
an
eye
and
handed
my
sentence
of
visitor
four
days
a
month.
Being
a
new
father,
I
figured
the
world
wasn’t
such
a
bad
place
and
figured
the
custodial
mother
would
be
happy
that
I
wanted
to
be
an
equal
parent
in
the
child’s
life;
to
nurture,
care
for,
feed,
bathe,
clean,
and
be
involved
in
every
part
of
her
life.
Unfortunately,
I
was
wrong.
For
the
first
six
years,
the
custodial
mother
followed
the
court
ordered
visitation
to
the
tee
and
life
was
hell.
By
age
eight,
the
mother
was
giving
me
more
and
more
time
with
the
child
and
by
age
ten
we
eventually
went
to
the
courts
and
hammered
out
the
perfect
50/50
shared
parenting
agreement
that
continues
in
effect
today.
I
also
must
say
that
I
realize
I
do
not
have
it
as
bad
as
most
of
you
here,
although
one
may
suspect
so
given
that
I
am
a
tireless
advocate
for
fathers
in
their
quest
to
become
equal
parents
in
their
kids’
lives.
Actually,
some
of
you
may
be
surprised
to
learn
that
I
am
also
a
custodial
father
of
a
female
child
who
is
very
young,
and
one
who
demands
that
the
court
give
the
mother
50/50
time
even
though
the
law
won’t
allow
it
in
North
Carolina.
So
where
am
I
going
with
this
post?
Custodial
Mothers
of
the
world,
be
careful
in
your
exhaustive
activism
for
unequal
family
courts,
for
thou
may
seal
the
fate
of
your
male
children.
Today,
another
child
was
born
in
North
Carolina,
one
who
will
be
lumped
into
statistics
as
yet
another
child
who
came
into
the
world
with
a
loving
mother
and
putative
father.
Before
anyone
gets
excited,
no
this
is
not
my
newest
child,
the
child
is
actually
the
grandchild
of
the
custodial
mother
I
mentioned
in
the
opening
of
this
article.
Now,
I
suspect
many
of
you
are
grinning
from
ear
to
ear
knowing
exactly
where
I
am
going
with
this,
and
you
could
not
be
more
right.
Although,
I
do
want
to
say
that
while
I
should
be
enjoying
the
hell
out
of
this,
sitting
back
smoking
a
cigar
and
laughing
my
ass
off,
I
need
to
control
that
and
remember
that
this
young
man
has
the
potential
to
have
his
life
shattered
if
the
relationship
with
the
child’s
mother
does
not
go
as
planned.
But,
I
am
not
as
nice
as
many
of
you
may
suspect
and
I
am
going
to
take
a
moment
to,
with
great
verbosity
and
enjoyment,
scream
from
the
rooftops…
CUSTODIAL
MOTHER
KARMA!
Why?
Today
I
watched
a
Mother,
a
woman
who
did
everything
possible
in
the
first
six
years
of
my
daughters
life
to
make
sure
I
was
nothing
more
than
a
marginalized
payment
provider
to
HER
child
became
a
staunch
and
very
aggressive
father’s
rights
advocate
for
HER
SON
who
is
now
a
newly
minted
putative
father
and
did
so
in
the
blink
of
an
eye.
Today
I
watched
this
former
custodial
mother
fight
with
nursing
staff
wanting
to
know
WHY
the
child
did
not
have
the
last
name
of
her
son,
and
could
not
fathom
their
legal
response
that
in
North
Carolina
he
is
not
a
father
because
he
is
not
married
to
the
mother.
When
told
that
her
son
could
sign
an
“affidavit
of
parentage”
before
leaving
the
hospital
which
would
give
him
some
legal
rights
IF
the
default
custodial
mother
of
this
baby
agreed
to
it,
my
former
custodial
mother
had
a
look
on
her
face
that
I
will
never
forget,
and
the
words
will
probably
stick
with
me
till
death.
Grandma
(former
custodial
mother
of
my
child):
“What
the
hell
do
you
mean
he
can
sign
a
piece
of
paper?
My
son
is
this
child’s
FATHER!”
Nursing
Staff:
“Ma’am,
I
understand,
but
by
law
he
can’t
be
considered
the
father
unless
the
mother
allows
him
to
sign
this
affidavit”
Grandma:
“Will
this
put
his
name
on
the
birth
certificate?”
Nursing
Staff:
“No
Ma’am,
this
is
just
a
NC
Department
of
Health
and
Human
Services
form
that
they
give
us
to
have
fathers
sign
in
these
circumstances
(preparation
for
child
support
proceedings
just
in
case).
He
will
have
to
contact
an
attorney
in
order
to
establish
legal
rights..”
Grandma:
“Are
your
F’ing
kidding
me?!?!”
Of
course
I,
having
lived
this
side
of
hell,
sat
back,
watched,
and
could
have
told
her
all
this,
but
I
digress…
What
Custodial
Mothers
AND
FEMINIST
CO-CONSPIRATORS
Can
Learn
From
This
Article
Right
now,
in
every
corner
of
this
planet,
there
are
soon
to
be
mothers
and
custodial
mothers
in
a
furious
fight
to
maintain
their
position
as
supreme
lord
over
their
children
and
who
will
have
no
part
in
the
father
joining
her
at
the
throne.
These
mothers
can
be
found
over
on
Jezebel,
Feministing,
BlogHer,
and
A
Circle
of
Moms
conspiring
with
other
mommies
about
how
bad
their
ex-husbands
or
boyfriends
are
and
what
they
can
do
to
make
sure
he
never
sees
the
light
of
day
again.
All
of
this,
while
they
have
a
male
child
feeding
from
their
nipple
and
looking
at
him
in
wonderment.
Little
do
any
of
these
mothers
realize,
roughly
50%
of
the
worlds
militant
custodial
mothers
have
male
children
whom
they
are
working
diligently
to
make
sure
that
he,
as
a
father,
will
be
summarily
kicked
in
the
ass
by
the
custodial
mother
in
his
life
and
the
family
courts.
And
who,
will
likely
be
standing
in
a
hospital
or
court
room
one
day
screaming
to
high
hell
about
how
her
son
is
a
father
dammit!
All
I
can
do
is
again
say:
CUSTODIAL
MOTHER
KARMA!
But
I
do
have
a
wonderful
message
for
these
mothers,
a
message
that
your
feminist
leaders
forgot
to
tell
you
when
they
took
your
money
at
fundraisers
or
put
pictures
in
front
of
your
face
of
beaten
and
bloody
women
claiming
that
this
would
be
you
if
the
father
ever
got
near
you
or
your
child
again
(likely
in
an
effort
to
squeeze
another
dollar
out
of
your
pocket
an
into
their
non-profit
trust
account).
My
message
to
you
is
this:
cancel
your
subscriptions
to
the
National
Organization
For
Women’s
mailing
list,
close
your
accounts
on
Jezebel
and
Feministing,
and
join
the
dark
side
because
you
will
likely
find
that
your
new
life
as
an
activist
and
non-custodial
grandmother
who
will
likely
rarely
see
her
grandchildren
is
best
served
here
on
A
Voice
For
Men.
And
remember
all
those
things
your
feminist
co-conspirators
told
you
about
your
ex-husband
or
boyfriend,
how
he
is
a
likely
rapist,
domestic
abuser,
and
child
molester?
Yeah
well,
you
just
remember
that
because
as
they
took
your
money
and
time
then,
they
have
every
intention
to
tell
the
custodial
mother
of
YOUR
son’s
child
the
same
thing
about
YOUR
son.
Enjoy
your
stay
on
A
Voice
For
Men.
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